Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood
Week One
"Accept him as he is"
When we come to Jesus we are dirty, vile, unworthy sinners. We have sin, bad habits and a host of things that keep us from knowing the Lord as our Savior, but the bible says in Isaiah 1:18
18 “Come now, and let us reason together,”
Says the Lord,
“Though your sins are like scarlet,
They shall be as white as snow;
Though they are red like crimson,
They shall be as wool."
18 “Come now, and let us reason together,”
Says the Lord,
“Though your sins are like scarlet,
They shall be as white as snow;
Though they are red like crimson,
They shall be as wool."
He tells us to come as we are and he will accept us "as is". He sees our good side. He doesn't force us to change, he allows us our freedom. He loves us as we are and when we do change it is because he loved and accpted us just the way we are that compells us to accept him as our Savior. He died on the cross and rose again to pay the price of forgiveness for our sins.
Our marriage to our husbands works the same way. He has flaws and sin and bad habits that keep us from having a closeness with him that we desire, but just as the Lord accepts us as we are, we are to accept our husbands just the way they are. Yes ladies this means even when they leave the toilet seat us, dirty clothes on the floor, etc. As godly christian wives, first we need to pray that God will change us and help us to be accepting, forgiving women.
Let your husband be free to be himself, don't try to force him to change and don't continuously point out all of his flaws. Matthew 7:3-4 says,
3 And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? 4 Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? 5 Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye."
It is not your job to remind your husband that he is a sinner. It is your job to love, honor and respect him inspite of his sin. When you change the way you act toward him with such an attitude of love, he can't help but change the way he acts towards you.
Here are this weeks assignments. Before you complete each assignment pray and ask God to begin to change your heart and your attitutde toward your husband. Ask God to help you be a forgiving and accpting wife. I encourage you to take advantage of the Finding Favor With God chat forum on the Wibya Toolbar at the bottom of the webpage. I will be on the forum tommorow night from 7-8pm Central Time for open/group discussion about the lesson this week if any one wants to join me feel free to stop by!
Next week: We will learn the most important thing a man needs, it is the most important secret in Fascinating Womanhood!
SECRET NUMBER ONE: Accept
him as he is.
Look to his good side.
Don’t try to change him.
Forgive him for past hurts.
Allow him his freedom.
Compile a list of his masculine virtues.
Humbly apologise to him for your past mistakes.
ASSIGNMENT ONE. Make a list of all your
husband’s masculine virtues. Read them every morning and night. Continue this
until you have committed them to memory.
ASSIGNMENT
TWO. Forgive him in your heart for all the times he has hurt you in the past.
Ask God to help you if necessary.
ASSIGNMENT
THREE. Then say the following to your husband, touching him as you do so:
“I’m glad you’re the kind of man you
are. I haven’t always appreciated you in the past, and I’ve made some silly
mistakes. I’m sorry, and I’m glad you haven’t let me push you around. I’m glad
you’re the way you are. From now on I’m going to try to be a wonderful wife for
you.”
(You can rephrase
this statement with words that are more natural to you if you prefer. But do
not lessen its impact.)
Masculine Virtues
Active
Agile Alert Articulate Artistic Assertive Athletic Attentive Authoritative Bold
Boyish Brave Brilliant Business acumen Calm Capable Caring Charming Cheerful
Child loving Clean Comforting Confident Conscientious Considerate Contented
Co-operative Courteous Cultured Curious Decent Dependable Determined Devoted
Devout Dignified Diligent Disciplined Discreet Distinguished Dress Sense
Dynamic Earnest Educated Effective Efficient Elegant Eloquent Encouraging
Entertaining Enthusiastic Exuberant Fair Faithful Firm Fit Flexible Fluent
Forgiving Friendly Gallant Gardener Generous Gentle Genuine Gifted Good Good
driver Good navigator Gracious Grateful Handsome Handyman Happy Healthy Helpful
Humorous Honest Honorable Hospitable Humble Impressive Ingenious Innovative
Inspiring Intelligent Interesting Insightful Jovial Joyful Keen Kind
Knowledgeable Leader Likeable Lively Logical Long suffering Lovable Loving
Loyal Lucky Manly Masculine Masterful Mature Moderate Modest
Money manager Musical Neat Nice smile Noble
Non-smoker Nostalgic Obliging Open Optimistic Orderly Out-going Passionate
Patient Peaceable Perceptive Perfectionist Persistent Personable Persuasive
Photogenic Playful Pleasant Poetic Poised Polished Polite Popular Positive
Powerful Practical Prayerful Precise Profound Progressive Prominent Prosperous
Protective Prudent Punctual Qualified Reasonable Refined Relaxed Reliable
Resilient Responsive Righteous Robust Romantic Rugged Scholarly Secure Selfless
Sensible Sensitive Sentimental Serious Sincere Singer Slim Sober Sociable Solid
Spiritual Spontaneous Sportsman Stable Strong Steady Strict Suave Subtle
Successful Superior Supportive Tactful Tall Tanned Tender Thoughtful Tolerant
Trusting Trustworthy Truthful Vigorous Virile Warm Wealthy Well built Well
groomed Wholesome Wise Witty Youthful
COMMON MISTAKES WIVES MAKE THAT INJURE THEIR HUSBANDS’ SENSITIVE PRIDE
o Criticising his
weaknesses.
o Speaking angrily when he
fails in a masculine area of responsibility.
o Disagreeing with him on
masculine matters.
o Pouring cold water on
his ideas.
o Giving him advice when
he has not asked for it.
o Discussing his career or
occupation as if you know as much about it as he does.
o Reminding him how you
struggle on his income.
o Telling others how much
your parents have done for you since you got married.
o Admiring a masculine
quality in another man.
o Suggesting he call a
repair man when he is trying to repair something.
o Not paying attention
when he is telling you about something of which he is proud.
o Not praising him when he
does something outstandingly well.
o Telling him he is losing
his figure or his hair.
o Holding yourself up as
an example for him to follow.
o Reminding him of your
superior education.
o Excelling him in a
male-dominated sport such as athletics, golf, swimming.
o Going out to work when
he would prefer that you stayed at home.
o Telling others that you
have to go out to work to make ends meet.
